ON MAKING THE FIRST MOVE...

I happened to watch a talk show last sunday and its theme was about working with someone you consider really special. A guy was asked how he would react if a girl courts him instead. He answered...he'll be amazed and admire that girl for having the courage to make the first move...

How many men would have the same reaction towards women who are open about their feelings for them???

I believe there is nothing wrong about being honest, most especially if it concerns matters of the heart--and this thing goes out to both men and women who are tortured by the thought of whether somebody likes him/her or not.

I know the ultra-conservative society wouldn't agree with me because of the culture and traditions that have rooted from our forefathers--that women should wait for the men to make the first move at love.

I'm not saying that we should do away with these cultural values and traditions. Maria Clara-type of women still exist in this new age and time and i got nothing against them. Actually, I admire them for remaining as conservative as they are despite the many culture-bound influences in the media! What i'm only saying is, if you think you cannot live another day haunted by creeping thoughts of whether your feelings for another person may be reciprocated or not, you might as well blurt it out to the person...we'll of course, without undermining the possibility of being rejected. Never undermine the consequences of your actions. If you cannot face rejection, might as well not do it. You might just end up doubly frustrated about the whole thing (just sulk in one corner and wait 'til the end of time!...who knows!...he might court you once in your lifetime!).

I'm just being practical about the whole thing. Well, I did it once and it worked!...I had to do it coz he was kind of "torpe" when it comes to courting a girl. There was this existing mutual understanding between us and we knew each other for quite a long time..enough for me to be comfortable in asking him whether he feels something special for me or not. Luckily, it worked! We started from there and it made easier for him to make things official for us.

Just a little advise, if you feel the chances are too slim for you to receive a favorable response from the other person...just DROP THE IDEA OF ASKING HIM!...that'll be a DOUBLE JEOPARDY on you!!!like committing TWO TECHNICAL FOULS in a row!(",)